Hi Thanks for posting on HCM Wet dreams are very common especially in adulescents but may also occur in adults.Wet dreams begin during puberty when the body starts making more testosterone, the major male hormone.Most guys experience them at some point during puberty and even sometimes as adults. Wet dreams usually happen less as guys get older.I feel you need more of a psychological management given the fact that it mostly happens when you do not have sex for some days.You may not have any particular problem. I will suggest you see a Psychologist for counselling and regular sex with your wife. Hope this will help Wish you well