How to bring your sex drive back post-Pill
I recommend a three-pronged approach to regain your sex drive after the Pill, whether you’ve only recently come off, plan to soon, or have been off the Pill for a a few months already. I have found this strategy to be effective with the many women I’ve supported in coming off the Pill.
The first part of this strategy focuses on sex drive-boosting foods, the second part centers around sex drive-supportive supplements, and the third looks at adjusting exactly how you approach sex.
Part 1: Let food be your foreplay
You can support your endocrine system with the right foods that will help your body produce enough
testosterone to give your sex drive the boost it needs. After coming off the Pill you will be depleted of some key nutrients that will also contribute to connecting issues like low moods and poor sleep. Eating a diet rich in hormonally supportive foods will be key in avoiding all the withdrawal effects of the Pill – including rebound hormonal
acne, weight issues,
infertility issues.
Focus on well-researched aphrodisiacs like avocados (full of bioidentical testosterone), honey (packed with hormone regulating boron), strawberries (an ancient remedy that really works), and dark chocolate (for feeling energized and content). You’ll also need to nourish your tired post-Pill adrenals and stabilize your mood – you can do this by avoiding the caffeine, eating regularly, and upping the essential fatty acids in your diet. Try mixing up my this sex drive-boosting smoothie a couple of times per week .
Part 2: Get sexy with supplements
No supplement will change your sex drive on its own, but as part of a wider hormonally supportive diet, they can work wonders. Try maca powder in your smoothies – a well-researched root extract that will help increase testosterone levels. I also recommend adding Zinc,
Magnesium, Evening Primrose and Rhodiola to your daily routine to improve your energy and mood, as well as increase your desire for and enjoyment of sex. These supplements will support your adrenals, up testosterone levels, give you bigger and better orgasms. Zinc and Magnesium are especially important for preventing the binding of free testosterone and keeping free testosterone available – the importance of which is shown in the aforementioned research.
Part 3: Take it slow
The third part of my strategy is to shift your approach to sex. Taking the birth control pill, especially long term, can change how we think and feel about sex. When you come off the Pill you will need to work with your new desire level in ways that will let you have the time you need to feel turned on and ready. The effects of the sex drive-boosting foods and supplements won’t be immediate and while you’re waiting for your testosterone levels to bounce back, you can start with this. It’s all about building a new pathway towards becoming aroused.
Focusing more on actual foreplay (not just food as foreplay!) with long make-out sessions with your man or indulging in some literotica to get in the mood can help. If you’ve gotten used to not having a lot of sex because you just didn’t feel like it, start practicing being sexual regularly in different ways. Our sex drive is something that can disappear purely through lack of practice! You might need to make a leap of faith that you will get turned on by starting out small and slow with sexual explorations – the more you do, the more you’ll want. Self-pleasure can certainly be a part of this.
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