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What Causes The Feeling Of Insecurity?

Currently I am in a relationship. My partner always gives more importance to his friend not to me. So I always feel insecure. He always wants space. Whenever he goes to attend some party or get together with his friend, he totally forgets me. Is it his fault or I am becoming more possessive? Can you help me out?
Tue, 5 Aug 2014
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Hello, thank you for posting your query to HCM.

Being in a relationship does not mean that one has to let go of their old ties with family and friends. Even you shouldn't be doing that. Its unfair, and no one would like that. Having said that, I dont know how well your partner is balancing between you and his friends. Because totally ignoring your partner for friends is also unacceptable. So he definitely needs to strike a balance between you two. And you could tell that to him without being rude about it. If you fight about it he might take offence and fail to see your point.
Also you need to give him the space he's asking for, and instead of cribbing about it, spend that time as your own 'me' time doing the things that you would love to, like going out with your girl friends or shopping/parlor etc. When you both meet after that 'me' time, you'd cherish each other's company even more. If you try and shift your focus into your work or your other relationships (family and friends) you'd be less bothered by this behavior of his. However if he completely ignores you, then you need to be firm in telling him so. And should also make it clear that you would not take it, but without picking up a fight.

All the best!
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What Causes The Feeling Of Insecurity?

Hello, thank you for posting your query to HCM. Being in a relationship does not mean that one has to let go of their old ties with family and friends. Even you shouldn t be doing that. Its unfair, and no one would like that. Having said that, I dont know how well your partner is balancing between you and his friends. Because totally ignoring your partner for friends is also unacceptable. So he definitely needs to strike a balance between you two. And you could tell that to him without being rude about it. If you fight about it he might take offence and fail to see your point. Also you need to give him the space he s asking for, and instead of cribbing about it, spend that time as your own me time doing the things that you would love to, like going out with your girl friends or shopping/parlor etc. When you both meet after that me time, you d cherish each other s company even more. If you try and shift your focus into your work or your other relationships (family and friends) you d be less bothered by this behavior of his. However if he completely ignores you, then you need to be firm in telling him so. And should also make it clear that you would not take it, but without picking up a fight. All the best!