My wife was diagnosed with bi polar b- into paranoid schizophrenic just over 9 years ago or so. At that time she was receptive to the fact that something in her mind just wasn t right. She began medication and once a few months had past I began seeing real changes, it brought me so much hope and is what made me decide to go ahead and marry her because I thought we found the answer and all was solved. I was wrong, she became pregnant and due to the pregnancy she could not take her medication, I had no problem with that as she agreed once she had the child she would return to taking her medication. She became pregnant again before starting her medication back up and therefore could not, then after that pregnancy she said she wasn t going to be getting back on the medication because it just made her sleepy at night. I was devastated and afraid what would happen. 5 years after no medication, she had a really bad episode that I was unable to manage or cope with myself and I ended up in jail for her lying and making things up that didn t happen. Before she was diagnosed, she begged me to kill her for hours on end, I obviously refused and when I told her, not even if you wrote an authorized letter to do so would I even be able to think about doing such a thing. She then did just that, as if doing what I said wouldn t matter would change my mind? I am now sitting at my father s house because she wants a divorce because she is having an episode of extreme negative thoughts and is being very hostile just for starters. I have 4 kids I do not want to lose, how do I take control of the situation and not lose my wife and kids and everything I ve worked for?