Hello,

The signs and symptoms of your husband indicates that he is never apologetic about his behavior. Getting angry with you and stopping to talk to you when you are right / correct is not a very healthy indication of a relationship. Do not surrender to his wrong behavior because it will only encourage him to slowly get exploitative or aggressive over you.

In a normal relationship the word 'sorry' can make everything well. You are in a strenuous relationship. Marriage is not only about taking financial responsibility; it is about loving and caring for one another, and giving the best lifestyle to the wife and the child. The husband's role is to lead the wife spiritually and to see that she feels well loved and cared for emotionally and sexually. If he is neglecting you and your child, you are in a difficult relationship.

The husband is the man of the house, and his wife is his crown. He will receive public recognition and dignity only if his wife and child are happy. A matured man does not make such a mistake. He is showing narcissistic symptoms and such symptoms are not good for a relationship. A narcissistic spouse would not be able to support their spouse or show genuine emotion.

Frequent anger, envy or lack of empathy are signs of narcissism. Any love or affection narcissists show is often given only for their own benefit. Watch and try to study him. While narcissists are extremely sensitive to emotional blows of any sort, they can't understand or consider when you are hurt. Some dominate some intimidate. Their love is superficial and fleeting. You can give some more time to your relationship, watch and study him. You can take the help of a local counsellor. Keeping quiet and holding stuff to yourself will make life worse.

You can request him to consult therapists and counsellors, but if he is unwilling, you are in a tough situation. Get him clinically examined and evaluated, if he is diagnosed as a narcissist, it is better that you make yourself independent first and then file for a divorce. Life can never become normal with narcissists. They break your spirit and as days pass you will become more hurt, and healing becomes even more difficult.

You are young, you can get settled with another man in the near future. However, try to help him improve if you can but if he shows no change, do not waste your life over him. Do not get stressed out. Be patient with him, if he improves you can continue to be in this relationship with him but if he makes you more weary as days pass, just walk out. Be bold. All the best.

Take care. Hope I have answered your question. Let me know if I can assist you further.

Regards,
Dr. Nupur K., General & Family Physician