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What May Be The Cause Of Difficulty In Speaking To Girls?

Hi, I am a 19 year old male and a virgin, I have gone out with girls and have had numerous times that I could have alleviated my situation but I didn't. I am going to school full time and working nearly full time and am the Vice President of my class, and involved in sports and recently havn't had time to go out with any girls. A part of me definately wants to do it and another part of me is just scared to death, and I am scared of all the terrible things that could happen! Whenever, I am with a girl I can talk and socialize fine, but if I feel like anything else might happen I freeze up, disengage and get rid of the girl. Doc, what should I do? Am I weird because of my predicament? I want to have at least some fun before marriage but I don't know if now is the time or it it ever will be?
Fri, 10 Oct 2014
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Welcome to HCM
We understand your concerns

I went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. I can see that your self confidence and boldness in this particular are has lessened. There should be a reason for that. You must remember that every day same things may not happen. You will also change yourself and will be able to talk to girls in near future. To regain your self confidence, you need to believe that "you can". For the time being, counseling can be a good option.

If you require more of my help in this aspect, Please post a direct question to me in this URL. http://goo.gl/aYW2pR. Make sure that you include every minute details possible. I shall prescribe the needed psychotherapy techniques.

Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications.
Good luck.
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What May Be The Cause Of Difficulty In Speaking To Girls?

Dear Welcome to HCM We understand your concerns I went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. I can see that your self confidence and boldness in this particular are has lessened. There should be a reason for that. You must remember that every day same things may not happen. You will also change yourself and will be able to talk to girls in near future. To regain your self confidence, you need to believe that you can . For the time being, counseling can be a good option. If you require more of my help in this aspect, Please post a direct question to me in this URL. http://goo.gl/aYW2pR. Make sure that you include every minute details possible. I shall prescribe the needed psychotherapy techniques. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.