What To Do For The Mental Issues?

HI , I am wondering about myself were im at , I think I burnt out at work just pire 2009 and throwing a big contract away as I was working huge hours .so there maybe issues there relating to struggling with work .. ..I broke my leg 2009 not long after throwing contract and ended up in bed for 4 months and I pretty certain I got a hypoactive disorder .I hv changed a lot and don't understand wats going on , my marriage fell to bits but I think it was going anyway ..was married 14 years 11 good last 3 go worse moved out meet a lady 1 month after moving out and she turned out to hv adhd. I been with her for 15 months constantly breaking up n getting back together .she really trys to change but she has major jeliously and anger issuses..I find I am upset and angry with her behaviour of accusing me of things I am not doing all the time , she accuse me of trying to hook up with all other woman all the time wen im only interested in her . I sent her to her sisters once she turned up back at my place and slit her wrist in front of me .that was 8 months ago .2 months ago she attacked me and scratched my face quite bad , she been back up north by her mum since .I am alone hwere in nelson im drinking quite alote again I can do 5 jugs 2-3 nights a week . im struggling to go to work . not because of drink but I feel depressed don't care .I love this woman but dangerous to hv her back. I got her on to 4 different medicartions , pysho specailists , docters etc ,, I cant help her .not even sure I can help myself . I never talked to anyone before how I feel I just work thro stuff .could I need help