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Why I Am Not Interested In Sex?
hello, im 20 years of age and have not yet had sex, it puts a li strain on my relationship at the min but not massively, i have a number of long term relationships and have not managed to let myself have sexual intercourse, i don't understand why im ready to i no that because i really want to and have done for a while but when it comes to the point in physical contact where u would have sex with i clam up and push away and then get upset because i cant let myself do it and its really starting to get me down, i have a problem with letting him finger me to sometimes i can be ok with it and sometimes i don't want it like my muscle tightens n me legs automatically close and wont let it happen so i don't no wether its the thought of something inside me but honestly i do not have a clue i need some to explain and help maybe a councilor i don't no please help x
Mon, 3 Sep 2018
Hi,
Lack of interest in sex can be due to many reasons like history of abuse/rape, vaginismus, fear of sexual performance, fear of pregnancy, fear of getting STD, self consciousness/shame for ones own bod, etc. Sex is a beautiful thing you need not get conscious of your body or performance. Just try to relax & enjoy.
Presently it looks like vaginismus from which you are suffering, visit a gynae & get your pelvis physically examined. The gynae will look for any infection, scar or growth that may cause the pelvic muscle contractions resulting in preventing sexual intercourse.
Get treated, if you have no pathology causing it then start doing regular pelvic exercises & get yourself emotionally & physically ready for a man. Take your sweet time, don't haste. You are very young, stay away from addictions, go for protected sex.
Make sure you are with a man who loves you, with whom you are comfortable & close before indulging into sex right away.
Hope I have answered your query. Let me know if I can assist you further.
Regards,
Dr Nupur K
Lack of interest in sex can be due to many reasons like history of abuse/rape, vaginismus, fear of sexual performance, fear of pregnancy, fear of getting STD, self consciousness/shame for ones own bod, etc. Sex is a beautiful thing you need not get conscious of your body or performance. Just try to relax & enjoy.
Presently it looks like vaginismus from which you are suffering, visit a gynae & get your pelvis physically examined. The gynae will look for any infection, scar or growth that may cause the pelvic muscle contractions resulting in preventing sexual intercourse.
Get treated, if you have no pathology causing it then start doing regular pelvic exercises & get yourself emotionally & physically ready for a man. Take your sweet time, don't haste. You are very young, stay away from addictions, go for protected sex.
Make sure you are with a man who loves you, with whom you are comfortable & close before indulging into sex right away.
Hope I have answered your query. Let me know if I can assist you further.
Regards,
Dr Nupur K
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