Will Vaginal Bleeding Occur During Intercourse If Hymen Is Broken?

i live in a society where a girl with a broken hymen means she's not a virgin which of course would cause lots of trouble when getting married!
i have never had sex but i know my hymen isn't intact as i have masturbated with my fingers and i stuck a brush handle down there when i was young and i have also been using tampons for quite a while now.
what i need to know is will i bleed when i have sex for the first time as a penis would usually be thicker and longer than anything that i have used before??
also my hymen is intact but a bit streched on the bottom, a rupture on the left side and quite severely on the top!
does it depend on how aroused the vagina is? or the way the penetration happens?
i'm just really scared! i'm 18, still quite young but i was talking with the guy i'm in love with and hopefully we're going to get married we're just waiting till i finish college! and then this subject was brought up and he didn't say it directly but i know he's going to leave me if my hymen is not intact even if he knows i haven't had any sexual activity! and he's the one for me i know it so i'm terrified and really worried.
i know that this is irelevant but i just needed to say it to somebody!
thanks in advance for your help :)