Get Angry Very Easily, High Blood Pressure, Family Tension

Hello Doctor, I have a very short temper. I am a 33 yrs working women, working as a manager (engineer by education). I am married and have no kids. I stay with my in-laws. I am obese with 107kgs weight and have very high BP . Due to short temper, I get angry very easily on small things and more often I express my anger. In office I try to remain cool, but at home I cannot control myself. It will take a lot of time (sometimes hours) for me to calm down and this creates frustration and burning feeling inside. In addition to this, I cannot take taunting or if somebody laughs at me or any of my statement. If I cannot answer back then this haunts me the whole day. I have very high blood pressure 140/95. Sometimes, I feel like I don t want to live anymore.. But I am not that strong to kill myself.. then I think of my parents and my husband who love me so much. I am the only daughter. It feels like I am moving aimless although I have a decent job and the work pressure is very high. I have family tensions as well. Nowadays I am getting more & more frustrated if I hear new problems.. and everytime I will feel like I want to die or flee away somewhere. Life is becoming a burden on me. Please help.