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How Can I Address My Discomfort With My Boyfriend S Sexual Expectations, Including Cybersex And Physical Touch?
Hi , I am in ldr with my boyfriend for about a year. We have a good understanding between us. He is really good person. But I am not the person who can do sex not even cybersex with her boyfriend. My boyfriend is really into this sexual pleasure thing and whenever he talks to me regarding having a cybersex, I don t feel good.He tries to engage me into it but I don t want to do it unless I am married to him. Even when we meet , he tries to touch my private parts while watching a movie or so which I don t like at all . I am unable to confess to him that I don t feel anything good in these things. I fake orgasm everytime when he wants to do cybersex. What should I do?
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Tue, 1 Aug 2023
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Hello,
1st of all, sex is a mutual relationship. Not a single person's pleasure activity. Try to explain your condition to your boyfriend, that you are not comfortable with him. Try to explain, and if he is not ok with that, if you think it is wrong, you can directly say no to him. Faking orgasms without any pleasure will create problems in the future, so sit and speak with each other so that your problem will get some solution. As for my opinion, cyber sex is not good for health, as it may reduce the pleasure in the future when you have sex directly.
Take care. Hope I have answered your question. Let me know if I can assist you further.
Regards,
Dr. Mugilvannan M., General & Family Physician
1st of all, sex is a mutual relationship. Not a single person's pleasure activity. Try to explain your condition to your boyfriend, that you are not comfortable with him. Try to explain, and if he is not ok with that, if you think it is wrong, you can directly say no to him. Faking orgasms without any pleasure will create problems in the future, so sit and speak with each other so that your problem will get some solution. As for my opinion, cyber sex is not good for health, as it may reduce the pleasure in the future when you have sex directly.
Take care. Hope I have answered your question. Let me know if I can assist you further.
Regards,
Dr. Mugilvannan M., General & Family Physician
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