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How To Increase The Sexual Desire?

My 22yrs old wife does not enjoy sex. I mean she does not feel any sweet sensation/excitement on any part of her while making out. During foreplay, she does not enjoy it when her breast is being fondled with, when i kiss and suck her nipples and while giving her cunnilingus she feels no pleasurable excitement. The most that happens is that she sometimes gets hilariously tickled when I stroke her clits - The type one feels when being tickled by the side (ribs)or under the feet. It s so hilarious that she dreads my touching it because she tends to spring off from around me. With all this you should know orgasm is like a fairy tale to her. She bearly gets wet so i have to use lubes most times (at least she can tolerate my penis inside of her unlike my fingers or mouth). I don’t feel satisfied with our sexual life and she s not happy too she is not enjoying sex the way she knows, by discussion, other people do. I m actually her third and then her husband. According to her it has been that way from her first boyfriend and they all complain of same thing. I trust my sex skills because in my past relationships, my exs enjoyed my sexual stunts and adventure. Even those who had difficulty in having orgasm or that has never even had orgasm, had lots of it with me. My wife and I have read books that spoke more about how an individual’s psychological state affects him/her during sex (e.g. depressions etc) but I believe she s psychologically sane and stable. Personally, I suspect it s got to do with hormonal imbalance. I m not in the medical line though. We courted for about 3yrs before getting married this last December. I love my wife so much. Please doctors we need your help. You can reach me on my mobile for more chat; +0000
Thu, 6 Nov 2014
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Ayurveda Specialist 's  Response
Hello
Welcome to healthcare magic
as per whole description about your sexual life with your wife and the detailing explores whole thing about status of sexual excitement of your wife.
This condition clearly shows its purely psychological reaction. But she also do not know, may any hidden thing works in mind, but she also do not aware about that.

Now your point related to hormonal disturbance. I like to tell you one thing is that whole sexual act is depends on mind set only and after getting pleasure and excitement hormone secretions works it self.
But Mental status is a switch to on and off for hormones, lubrication, secretions, and reaching to orgasm.

Talk, relaxation, discussion, love, faith, foreplay, love without sex, act without sex may leads her more relaxation.
Do not try to sex forcefully and do not go as trial and error way.
GO forward with patience and gentle way. DO not keep topic about sex in front of her and go forward step by step.
It needed counselling.
Its not a case which needed any medication. For this you are only a medicines, which make effects if given properly, else too much side effects too.

Can also get online counselling too.

Regards,
Dr. Nikul Patel
Ayurveda Sexologist
Ahmedabad, India
lifecareayurveda@gmail.com
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How To Increase The Sexual Desire?

Hello Welcome to healthcare magic as per whole description about your sexual life with your wife and the detailing explores whole thing about status of sexual excitement of your wife. This condition clearly shows its purely psychological reaction. But she also do not know, may any hidden thing works in mind, but she also do not aware about that. Now your point related to hormonal disturbance. I like to tell you one thing is that whole sexual act is depends on mind set only and after getting pleasure and excitement hormone secretions works it self. But Mental status is a switch to on and off for hormones, lubrication, secretions, and reaching to orgasm. Talk, relaxation, discussion, love, faith, foreplay, love without sex, act without sex may leads her more relaxation. Do not try to sex forcefully and do not go as trial and error way. GO forward with patience and gentle way. DO not keep topic about sex in front of her and go forward step by step. It needed counselling. Its not a case which needed any medication. For this you are only a medicines, which make effects if given properly, else too much side effects too. Can also get online counselling too. Regards, Dr. Nikul Patel Ayurveda Sexologist Ahmedabad, India lifecareayurveda@gmail.com