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Sex Very Painful And Burning. Advised Lubrication. Problem Persist. Solution?
i have been married 2 weeks back.im 25 years old girl.on first day of my marriage, i had sex..it seemed very painful and burning. so i stopped him.after 2 days of my marriage i got periods.hence for 9 days i dint have sex. yesterday i was depressed and asked many of my relatives and friends to help me..they suggested vaseline for lubrication ,anasthecia for pain and ultracet tablet.i had all these at night and again had sex, but no use. his penis is not going into my vagina .its burning me at that place.both are very frustuated and i am afraid of the nights these days and very very tensed.my spouse is very interested about it. but i am really helpless.please help me sir.i am very scared of nights everyday.my height is 5 feet and weight 44kgs.please help me sir
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Tue, 5 Mar 2013
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Hi there,
Thanks for writing to us,
Pain during intercourse or dyspareunia is mainly due to vaginismus (reflux spasm of vagina during intercourse resulting in severe pain).
It may of various reasons like vaginal or urinary tract infections. The identification of the exact cause need proper examination.
It is usually common on newly married women who experience sex for first time.
The treatment may be physiological or psychological depends on the cause.
The painful experience itself have an bad impression of sex resulting vaginismus , which usually needs general counseling with an practitioner along with your partner.
Physical causes are treated with pelvic stretch exercises.
If your problem is getting severe ,it is advised to meet an GP as soon as possible to get examined and treated for the cause.
Let me know if you had further questions,
Good health
Regards,
Thanks for writing to us,
Pain during intercourse or dyspareunia is mainly due to vaginismus (reflux spasm of vagina during intercourse resulting in severe pain).
It may of various reasons like vaginal or urinary tract infections. The identification of the exact cause need proper examination.
It is usually common on newly married women who experience sex for first time.
The treatment may be physiological or psychological depends on the cause.
The painful experience itself have an bad impression of sex resulting vaginismus , which usually needs general counseling with an practitioner along with your partner.
Physical causes are treated with pelvic stretch exercises.
If your problem is getting severe ,it is advised to meet an GP as soon as possible to get examined and treated for the cause.
Let me know if you had further questions,
Good health
Regards,
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Hello agricoisha
Welcome to Health Care Magic
First of all just to reassure you I would like to tell you that it is normal to have some pain in females during first intercourse, it may be due to break of hymen or also due to tightness of vaginal walls. So during sexual intercourse if a girl experience pain and fails to do, she may experience severe anxiety because of failure. This results in anticipatory anxiety about having sex as well as guilt of failure. Both anxiety and guilt further deteriorate the problem.
Yes use of lubrication will be beneficial but use only aqueous based (water) lubricants as oil based lubricants may cause infection. Secondly talk to your partner and gradually progress to next step. For relief of pain you can use any OTC analgesic like paracetamol, ibuprofen etc.
If problem persists then visit a gynecologist to rule out anatomical abnormality if any.
Thanks
Take Care
Welcome to Health Care Magic
First of all just to reassure you I would like to tell you that it is normal to have some pain in females during first intercourse, it may be due to break of hymen or also due to tightness of vaginal walls. So during sexual intercourse if a girl experience pain and fails to do, she may experience severe anxiety because of failure. This results in anticipatory anxiety about having sex as well as guilt of failure. Both anxiety and guilt further deteriorate the problem.
Yes use of lubrication will be beneficial but use only aqueous based (water) lubricants as oil based lubricants may cause infection. Secondly talk to your partner and gradually progress to next step. For relief of pain you can use any OTC analgesic like paracetamol, ibuprofen etc.
If problem persists then visit a gynecologist to rule out anatomical abnormality if any.
Thanks
Take Care
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