Hello I am a 61 year old female with bladder urgency. I find that I am getting an uncomfortable feeling in my urethra as well as a full bladder. I am currently using oxybutynin patches but am getting little relief. I am exhausted and depressed, wishing I had my old life back. This was caused by a cystoscopy and the thought of this haunts me. I have been given vesicare to try if I wish by my doctor, but am a bit worried that the side effects will be worse than the one I m on. I feel like my life is ruined...help!