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Suggest Treatment For Lack Of Sex Drive
I really dont know how to solve this...I am married and I have sex with my husband 2/3 times per month, and every time i initiate sex and I ask him if he want to.Also, I know that my husband is masturbating 4/5 times a week, which i dont mind,but sometimes I wish to masturbate, but I have no place or time for that,so that is why i am feeling frustrated.He can easily please himself watching some porn, and i must wait and wait for some opportunity...We dont sleep in the same room, and we have kid and one baby.When we have sex, he is acting like he use me for masturbation,and i am feeling bad, he dont please me, sex is 5 to 10 min long.Only when i masturbate i have orgasm, with him no.I know he is masturbating for hour or more.What is wrong?I was thinking to come in his room while he watch porn, but I never do, I dont want to mess in his sex, and I am not comfortable with that. Again, I would initiate sex. I think that he is so ready to cheat, i am too, but i am affraid a little.Is there any other solution?Thanks.
Wed, 30 Jul 2014
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Thanks for using healthcaremagic.
Your problem is not lacking of sex drive, but it is lack of intimacy. Sex not only means that you use your partner as a sex object. There should be sometime spent in foreplay.
Foreplay is the time when romance is the priority not orgasm.It is possible only when both partner have some feeling to each other.
Your history suggest some lack of intimacy between you. For that you need a couple counseling by psychologist or psychiatrist.
There is also lack of time and some family issues like not sleeping together.These also can be solved by counseling.
Ask your husband directly to help you as sex is the thing in which two partners involved, with only one problem can not be solve.Otherwise consequences may occur when you search for other partner to satisfy your need. Don't be cheated by him.Try to make your place in your marital life.
If above things not work, take help of your family members or friends who can be link between you.
Hope I have answered your query.late me know if still any info needed.
Regards, Dr. Chintan Solanki
Thanks for using healthcaremagic.
Your problem is not lacking of sex drive, but it is lack of intimacy. Sex not only means that you use your partner as a sex object. There should be sometime spent in foreplay.
Foreplay is the time when romance is the priority not orgasm.It is possible only when both partner have some feeling to each other.
Your history suggest some lack of intimacy between you. For that you need a couple counseling by psychologist or psychiatrist.
There is also lack of time and some family issues like not sleeping together.These also can be solved by counseling.
Ask your husband directly to help you as sex is the thing in which two partners involved, with only one problem can not be solve.Otherwise consequences may occur when you search for other partner to satisfy your need. Don't be cheated by him.Try to make your place in your marital life.
If above things not work, take help of your family members or friends who can be link between you.
Hope I have answered your query.late me know if still any info needed.
Regards, Dr. Chintan Solanki
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