Hi.
Thanks for your query.
Noted the history and understood your concerns.
You are only 52 years old and hence the old age is a long away thing.
The causes of such difficult to control passage of stool can be :
Laxity of the anal sphincters sue to damage, neurological affection or disease.
Abuse of laxatives.
Too much oily food or pancreatic problems wherein there is less digestion of fats.
This can be diagnosed y the following:
Per-rectal digital examiantion, ano-proctoscopy and
colonoscopy.
MRI of the lower spine to see any neurological problems that the spinal defect can cause.
Tests of the stools.
tests of blood and urine.
This way one gets the proper diagnosis and the possible management.
Till then avoid all the foods and beverages that cause loose stools.
Try to include only those foods that you cause normal motion.
Avoid the embarrassing situation and places as this increases the guilt and thus enhances the problems.