Hello dear, There are minimally invasive surgeries out there now not to be afraid of, at least in US. Other than these wonderful new procedures, exercise will be a constant part of your life, dont ever ever stop,Iknow. I have curvature brought on by genetics and had horrible invasive surgeries when young and now wish I had gone a different route, like waiting until the newer procedures came out. Here is one thing to do to relieve pain for awhile. Lay flat on the floor with a timer. Put your legs up on the couch or structure that will allow you to flatten your back and keep your legs in an L position resting on a piece of furniture. Do not move at all for 20-30 minutes minimum. When you go to get up, scoot back and roll on your side and have someone help you get up or if alone get up slowly while having something near for support. Don t bend over from the hip, ever. Squat always. When you walk or sit, imagine a golden cord tied to the bottom of your spine pulling you up towards the heavens, keep your shoulders back, your chin and neck held high. You may not hold this position very long, but keep at it. Good supportive shoes are necessary no bare feet or sandals.Rub capsaicin cream on your back (red pepper lotion, ask pharmacist for lotion that eases nerve pain); Wear your belt as much as possible. Many have herniations without pain but it sounds like you and I were not the lucky ones. Good luck. Investigate your surgical options. Now it is outpatient. Kathryn Shattler MS,RDN